I want to take this opportunity to explain what has been going on concerning recent events at AVFM and in the MRM, as well as what direction my YouTube channel is now headed in.
First I would like to say that I am still an advocate for men's rights and believe firmly that men should be able to have equal rights in areas such as family law, the family courts, reproductive rights, and of course in education. I will continue to strongly advocate for men, and I am still working with Murray Pearson to get the Earl Silverman Center up and running - (There will be an update video on that coming soon).
Now, onto the really important part of this post.
I believe that men have the right to be told the truth and to be able to make choices based on facts and intellectually honest information. This is why I feel it is necessary to expose those that are in the business of lying to men for the sake of nothing more than profit and personal agendas.
What has been transpiring over the last few weeks has not been about vengeance, hurt feelings, or a desire to one-up anyone. What this is about is that, while I was at AVFM it became clear to me, after having been on the back channels and after having seen how things work there from the inside, that there are things going on at AVFM which concern me greatly, and which I think people should be made aware of, especially those who give their money to these people based on what they pretend to be on the outside for their readers and viewers.
The claim that AVFM is non-partisan is one issue I have because I know for a fact that they lean heavily towards radical libertarianism. What does that mean? It means that they refuse to work within the current system for the benefit of men.
It is obvious that if one wants to change how something works they must first work within the current system in order to change it. However, Paul Elam and John Hembling, as well as others, refuse to do this because it does not fit in with their radical libertarian beliefs. I know this to be true because I suggested several things we could have done to help men, such as applying for funding for men's services through VAWA and other Gov't agencies, and was told that they would never touch government money because they do not want to use 'stolen money' because it is against their libertarian principles, and because that is 'what feminists do'.
I would personally have had no issue with their political leanings if it did not affect how they approached the issues of men's rights and how to advocate for men, however it clearly does influence their decisions by their insistence that nothing they do must ever be done against their libertarian principles or the way 'feminists do things'. This reasoning is ludicrous.
If we take that position then we may as well pack up now and leave and all move to the mountains. It is a childish viewpoint that ignores reality and the fact that we can do a lot for men if we are willing to let go of this bullshit radical Libertarian idea, and the idea that anything feminists do is bad.
I admit feminists have done a lot of harm to men and boys, but they have also done a lot of good for women and it is THAT part which we need to look at and study in order to be able to adequately assist men in any real way.
It is called working the system. If you want change, that is where you go to do it, and not by sitting on the sidelines waiting for the government to collapse. If that is going to be your position, then you are not doing anyone any good and should get out of the way of those who actually want to accomplish something now for the benefit of men instead of some radical ideology that hinders any and all progress.
The other issue is that these people are blatantly lying to you, and they are doing it almost as well as the radical feminists have.
Paul has admitted he controls the message in order to nudge men in the direction he feels is right. He is not allowing you to make decisions because he has carefully crafted the message (exactly what he said) so that you get nudged in his pre-determined direction. Is that what you want? To be unable to make an informed decision for yourself?
His controlled message is simple. He keeps men in a state of anger, and hopelessness. He perpetuates the victim narrative and tries to keep you stuck in victim mode. And he is not the only one. The inflammatory rhetoric used by those at AVFM, like John, are carefully written to get you emotionally worked up. I know this to be the case because I was on several SKYPE calls with John when he wrote many of his articles. I know how he does it and why. It's to keep you in a state of anger and despair.
As for Karen, I have several issues with her. The first being that she sells herself as an 'expert' to the MRM, yet she is not an expert in anything, by her very own admission. She has admitted she has no academic training or specialization in any area, yet she sells her assumptions, unsupported ideas and personal opinions as fact. She claims to not be a libertarian even though the proof is readily available in several places like Reddit that she is. And of course her video of her speaking at the libertarian convention in NY earlier this year is quite telling of her libertarian leanings. We won't mention the fact that she claims to not know where she's leaning, then accuses me of attacking 'her' beliefs. (she said this publicly for anyone who cares to examine her positions). She also supports things like biological determinism and Briffault's 'conjecture' which have been debunked by the scientific and academic community.
All these things should be red flags to anyone with an ounce of common sense. If she is able to justify these things in her own mind as being somehow plausible, then that speaks volumes about her ability to present unbiased or accurate information as a self proclaimed 'expert'. If this is not cause for concern, then I don't know what is. One should ask why, if she is such an 'expert', why is she not published in the scientific community? Why are her papers not under any peer review? These are questions you should be asking yourself of anyone who claims to be an expert in any academic or scientific field as she does.
Anyone working in the helping professions worth their salt will tell you that the goal of their work is to help their clients free themselves of the need for their help. A helping professional's job is to give their clients accurate and honest information so that they can heal and move on. So that they no longer require your assistance. This is what honest helping professionals do. But what Paul, John, Karen, and others at AVFM do, is keep you in a state of constant anger, helplessness, and need. They do not want you to get better. And why would they? Misery loves company. The more you rely on them the more they profit.
It has always been said, in the MRM, follow the money if you want to know who profits when it comes to feminists. Well I urge you to follow the same advice and the money here too. Open your eyes and see that the ones profiting are the ones who claim to have your best interests at heart. Sound familiar?
So my YouTube channel is now dedicated to exposing the lies and bullshit that is going on in the MRM, and at AVFM. I am going to do it the same way I would if it were radical feminism, religion, or any other bullshit scam.
I am doing this for you, not me. I do not profit from this at all. I make very little from doing this - YouTube will not feed or house my children in any way. The only reason for me doing this is that men should be able to make decisions and choices based on honest information. I feel that men deserve not to be lied to and taken for a ride. I believe that men have had the shit end of the stick for too long and this bullshit needs to stop.
If we are to accomplish anything as a movement these lies need to be exposed. If we don't do this then we are no better than the radical feminists. We will not advance, and we will not accomplish a damned thing. We may as well give up now.
There are men out there at this very moment that are truly hurting and suffering. Let's start showing them we really care by doing things that make a real difference in their lives. Enough of the useless sitting on the sidelines bitching about how evil women are, how the government needs to collapse, or how the only way to solve things is to opt out. This is why Earl Silverman died. John wants to blame feminism, but the fact is that the men that were close to Earl at the end knew that his despair was borne of the failure of the MRM to actually DO anything. When they were cornered on their own podcast by this revelation, they quickly changed their tune from 'the feminists did it' to 'he did it to himself', as if not being technically savvy, which is what AVFM has claimed, is a reason none of them could pick up the phone and call Earl the old fashioned way, or run fundraising campaigns for him.
Let's not delude ourselves, they don't WANT to take any responsibility for Earl's death - who would want to? So instead of accepting that Earl was desperate because no one who purports to speak for men decided to help him, they blame him - which quite nicely fits the Libertarian paradigm of personal responsibility, doesn't it? Suicide is a choice? Everyone who's been at that point, ask yourselves, did you choose to be there?
Enough with the inflammatory rhetoric and propaganda. It's time we moved past this shit and began exposing the lies. Doing this will motivate others to act in real productive ways instead of buying into the bullshit narrative that doing nothing is the only option for men. It will break through the bullshit narrative that a man's only option is to give up, and other bullshit that men are being fed on a daily basis which only serves to knock them down mentally into a state of despair.
I for one am not going to let this continue. I am going to fight this bullshit as I have in regards to feminism by peeling back the layers to expose the rotten core, and I welcome you to join me.
If not, then perhaps you are content with being lied to, being a perpetual victim feeling sorry for yourself and doing nothing to help yourself or others move on.
If that is the case, I urge you to move aside for those of us who want to help men now.